Sex and Christianity

Continued...

So where in scripture can we learn these patterns applicable to sex, in the twenty-first century. The old testament has plenty of laws and restrictions concerning relationships but, a little vague in some of there direct applications and can they be applied to todays culture and lifestyle? I use to visit a church that had a motto: “Where scripture is silent, we are silent” That sounds like a great way to get out of a-lot of difficult questions. It’s true there are no direct answers to many specific subjects, including sex, in married and unmarried couples. Pure physical love, between unmarried people is very heard to define. Fornication and adultery are very clearly defined in scripture which is, intercourse outside of marriage.

At what point does a love relationship become sex, and what are the boundaries? If left to our own understanding and imaginations from a corrupted nature, know telling what we’ll find. People from all walks-of-life within the church and out, have argued this and never come to a true acceptable guideline. 

      Being raised in a ‘Non-Christian’ home, I had a very distorted understanding of the boundaries when in an intimate relationship. How to treat, care and love. I did the best I knew with what I had. I remember an uncle telling me; “Sometimes you have to hit the woman, and then they’ll listen” How twisted and distorted is that...

      As a Christian I carried over childhood understanding about love, romance and sex. I learned from; TV, movies and friends, as a result, I stumbled many times. I drew relationship boundaries based on the advice of others, my own personal experiences, not through scripture. How wrong and deceptive they were. I couldn’t understand what went wrong and why. What looked like a beautiful romantic and wonderful evening; “Turning off the cell phone and let the lights down low. Fireplace lit and soft guitar music” seemed to be the way to go. I did everything I knew, to give what I thought would be a good and godly. At the end, the evening would turnout all wrong. I understood later that, somethings will lead to ungodly behavior, no matter how good the intentions. What I didn’t realize is that without true godly relationship principals, I was left wide open to what ever came forth.

.....To be continued...